UPDATE 3/19/06
Since my original post on Busboys below, I have decided I'm over it. It has become the poser palace, full of people all dressed up to hook up. Now don't get me wrong, there is a time and a place for such things, but it's not Sunday brunch. And the wait staff has become intolerable ... making patrons wait for half an hour for a seat despite empty tables and sofas everywhere. So I'm back at Tryst. Stop by sometime and I'll buy you a cup 'o joe.
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My friend Amy has been talking this place up for weeks, but I hadn't made it over until Saturday. Wow, they really nailed the "third place" concept better than any other place in town.
What is a "third place"?
Ray Oldenburg (1989) coined the term "third place" in The Great Good Place to describe where citizens of a community or neighborhood meet to develop friendships, discuss issues, and interact with others (The first being the home and the second being work.)
"There are essential ingredients to a well-functioning third place[s]. They must be free or quite inexpensive to enter and purchase food and drink within. They must be highly accessible to neighborhoods so that people find it easy to make the place a regular part of their routine -- in other words, a lot of people should be able to comfortably walk to the place from their home. They should be a place where a number of people regularly go on a daily basis. It should be a place where the person feels welcome and comfortable, and where it is easy to enter into conversation. And a person who goes there should be able to expect to find both old and new friends each time she or he goes there."
Had Oldenburg written his book in 2005, he would have included free wi-fi as an essential ingredient.
Murky Coffee in Arlington(the shop formally known as "Common Grounds") comes really close. It's within walking distance of GMU law school and the burgeoning Ballston and Clarendon neighborhoods. It's cheap and they have a group of regulars who become familiar if you go often. It's dirty, but comfortable. Yet Murky Coffee, to me, is fatally flawed for several reasons: the staff are rude and don't understand the community concept, the coffee tastes like ashtray, and the wi-fi isn't dependable. It's also full of white people who make six figures and who don't like to talk to strangers.
Tryst in Adams Morgan comes closer. In addition to a stay-as-long-as-you-like attitude and friendly waitstaff, the seating areas foster conversation between regulars and newcomers of diverse backgrounds. Although the wi-fi is free and reliable, the Tryst folks recognize that a room full of people staring at their laptops does not a party make, so they turn it off on Friday and Saturday evenings to foster a more social environment. The prices are low and the food and coffee are high quality. Tryst has live music on some weeknights. The problem? Smoke and crowds. Finding a non-smoking seat for more than one person can be a real challenge in the evenings. Still, it's super close to my house, and it's where I go when I want to socialize.
Or at least until now. Busboys and Poets has it all. Located in a transition neighborhood at 14th and V NW, the clientele are rich and poor, black, white, Latino, straight, gay, young and old(er). Seating in the cavernous venue is comfortable and plentiful, and they don't mind if you camp out for the afternoon. Community tables lit by candelabras and sofa/chair clusters force visitors into social settings. I have met fun people during both of my several visits in two days. The staff are friendly and all seem to be enjoying their jobs and their customers.
Better yet, B&P has a small bookstore that is well stocked with an interesting though somewhat-idiosyncratic inventory. It also has a beautiful theater room with deep table booths lining the walls and a stage equipped with high-tech multimedia accoutrements. B&P hosts free musicians, poets, authors, and comedians, and their offerings are sure to expand.
Perhaps the most surprising thing about this place is that it seems effortlessly hip. It's trendy, but it doesn't come off as trying too hard. It's cool just because it is. Cool like Johnny Cash, not Justin Timberlake.
Hope I see you at B&P soon! www.busboysandpoets.com